So, it’s been a weird one. Like, real weird.
The kind of weird where I feel like we’ll be talking about 2020 long after the calendars pile up in landfills.
I wish I knew what to say. I’ve always felt like I have a way of putting things into words, but I’d be amiss if I didn’t recommend visiting the CDC website or turning to your provincial/federal health organization for any/all information.
The amounts and sheer nature of some misinformation I’ve seen shared is just bonkers.
Friends, I can’t stress the importance of checking your sources now more than ever.
I’ll likely do a podcast on this, but I’ll say this for now: stay home.
Originally, I’d intended to write a recap of the last episode so I guess I’ll jump into that because I’d rather rehash that fun episode than try to formulate my thoughts on all of this right now. That ramble calls for a microphone and two fingers of very strong, very rationed swill.
Getting to dig back deep into my musical past with Jordan was a goddamn blast. It really gave me some cool perspective on the idea of a band scene being in a constant scene of evolution, the finite generations of bands/attendees, and the future of our own individual artistic growth.
It gave me a lot to think about when I think about playing show or live again. It made me want to perform and write and let myself let loose with an instrument (something I’ve long since out behind me; not as a point of pain, but rather as something I just lost interest in).
I guess we now have a lot more time indoors to consider all of our purposes. All of the things we are capable of doing and hammering down what it is that we will do.
I’m here if any of you need to talk.
Message me on Instagram and let’s figure out a next step.
It’s been a slice of a winter so far. I, personally, have shoveled the equivalent of three filled water bombers since January’s heinous snow-palooza (which didn’t catch on like I was hoping but alas) and my shoulders can’t take any more.
One great benefit to all of this extra time stuck indoors is the ability to focus on those passion projects we put aside. That craft you bought everything for, but tucked away in the fall. That song you started writing but you put down one evening when life got busy. That story you’ve been thinking about writing for years, but left in the pits of your mind.
See… one of the things about projects you’ve put aside is that, sometimes, there’s a reason you’ve put them aside. For me, that reason is usually that a project falls just outside of my comfort zone.
It’s easy to operate when you’re inside of your comfort zone.
You know where to look for the tools you need, you know where the manuals are, you can prepare for each next step along the familiar path.
But, stepping outside of your comfort zone means you feel like it’s your first day at a new job. We want to be perfect, we want the task to feel seemless, but we know it’s going to be a mess sometimes and it’s crucial to accept that it’s okay. It do really be like that.
This week on the podcast, I’m going to talk a bit about my own struggles and best advice for getting out of your comfort zone. Whether you’re trying something new or just trying to get out of your own rut, we’ll figure out some great ways to help revive that part of you that believes you can (probably) do it (adequately).
Stay tuned folks,
Welcome back to the site, the pod, the blog, the myth, the legend! Glad to have you onboard, as always.
I’ve been taking too many hiatuses as of late; which, frankly, makes sense as this is basically as much a hobby as a hobby can be. I guess, in a sense, I’ve always been afraid to take it more seriously for fear of losing the interest in working towards something fun.
And truthfully, in reflecting, I’m worried the pod has been losing a bit of that fun. So, I’ll address the elephant in the room first.
I want to give a special thanks to Doug, who will be taking a leave-of-absence from Super Adult HQ for the time being. I’d like to say it’s a long, interesting or even dramatic story.. but, truth be told, it’s a pretty simple tale of a man chasing his life-long dreams. I’m super proud of Doug, and was so glad to have him onboard, but I think we both knew it would always be a short-lived co-host spot as he hoped to get his feet wet in the profession of his dreams. And, finally, he’s doing it.
So please join me in sending our well wishes to the inimitable, unconventionally lovable Doug for some great laughs and reminding him there’s always a seat for him should Ray Romano start firing up the Ice Age multiverse.
This week, I’m hitting up the old familiar territory of building a routine. This is something I’ve extensively struggled with in my adult years as I’m more often than not a creature of impulse. It’s interesting; in some scenarios, I meticulously plan with a level of control that is robotic. Others, I could care less and fly by the seat of the universe’s pants on all decisions.
So I want to empart a little helpful advice to you folks this week about how I try to be real with myself about where I am, what I’m capable of today, and go from there.
Leave a comment, follow the instagram and send me along a little message with your tips/tricks on sticking to a routine.
all the bests folks,
Brad here. I’ve spent the last few weeks reflecting a lot on the next steps of Super Adult; where I want this thing to do, what I want it to sound like, what I want it to feel like to step into the studio and hit record.
I’ve been afraid I’m taking myself a little too seriously lately.
Maybe that’s not even truly the case, but it’s felt that way. And feeling like it’s become too serious has been mentally taking me out of it and keeping me from wanting to do it more.
I don’t want to pretend to have all, or any, of the answers you need. But I can promise the answers I have, and my vow is to keep this motherfucker light. Life is heavy, change is all-encompassing, and I want this podcast to be an escape from the realities of your existence to feel apart of something more apathetic/useless than our worst selves. To share in that commonality, the human condition of wondering what in the fuck it’s all about, and laughing over the conclusion that there is no answer and no wrong path to take.
So thanks for bearing with the hiatuses (hiatusi?) these past few months. It’ll get less frequent, I promise. Let’s have some fucking fun, dumbos.
On this week’s upcoming episode, we’re going to talk about the comfort zone whilst sending some well-wishes to a good friend of the program. More on that real soon.
In the meantime, let me leave you with a quote I’ll pick back up during our episode. Til then, folks..
“Someone once told me the definition of hell; on your last day on earth, the person you could have become will meet the person you became.”
Finally, a new podcast will be released a little later today. I don’t know how the fuck I went two months without doing this but, here we are. No time like the present and all.
This week, I want to talk a little about the importance of the path or journey we all take to finding our “purpose”.
First, I’ll disclaimer this by saying that I believe people can have a number of different purposes, crafts and trades and hobbies of all sorts that they could hone and master given the right allocation of time/effort. You could be the sickest Chef or a mind-bendingly thorough Accountant and, as unrelated both of these fields may seem, your success on these paths could be attributed to the same qualities or traits you possess. The thing that pushes you to succeed in one field could, potentially, be the very thing that pushes you forward in all aspects of your life.
It’s why we see certain people in our lives that we find ourselves in marvel of, sometimes bitterly or begrudgingly, as they manage to find success or equilibrium in anything they dip their toes into. These people know their strengths and, save for blind luck in some cases, work towards applying these strengths to everything that they do in their lives.
While they are often remarkable people with inimitable talents, it’s equally as important to remember that you can adopt that mindset of success and learn to hone your own strengths in the same way.
Will it change your life overnight? No.
But it’s progress.
This week, I’m going to talk a little about how both knowing and not knowing your intended path in life can be equally valuable. As easy as it can be to feel jealous that some folks find a purpose early in life, it’s just as important to remember that the growth on a path can be it’s own sort of valuable when the end-game isn’t as clear.
Let’s hear it, Helpless: did/do you know or not know your path, and how do you let that knowledge (or lack thereof) define the steps you take today?
Enjoy the new episode, folks, and tell a friend real soon.
After the brief shut-down of the entire city that I live in for the better part of eight days, preceded by a period of creative downtime on my end, I’m aching to fire things up again.
It’s been months since I’ve recorded a new episode for the show. And I haven’t a goddamn good reason as to why that might be.
I certainly haven’t been too busy. I mean, I’ve been busy. But, just, regular-life-busy. I’ve had plenty to say. Life certainly hasn’t showed any sign of slowing down. But dwelling is bullshit, too. As a really great comedian named Chris DiStefano once said, “If it won’t matter in five years, it doesn’t get five minutes.”
So I’ll have a new episode for you wonderful folks real soon. Maybe try to make 2020 a banner fucking year. Stay tuned, willya?
Happy friggin’ New Year to the bunch of you that have made year one of the Super Adult Podcast journey a magical and exciting one! It’s been wild to find myself on the other end of a goal I wanted to achieve, as even just starting this fucking thing was a chore in itself. It was kind of a measure in how much I truly wanted to put myself out there, as it’s tough to completely open up to a bunch of strangers about your deepest insecurities and struggles.
But, if it gives some context or comfort to just one of you along the way, I feel it’s worth it to make a horse’s ass of myself and bare the proverbial soul.
With New Year’s just behind us, you’re probably either settling into the new habits and paths you’ve carved for yourself. You’re trying to steer your rudder into the path you either see clearly before you or that you’re trying to imagine in your mind’s eye.
Or maybe you’ve entirely given up already.
No matter. We create this goal of changing our entire life overnight, as though the change of a number on your calendar can transform us overnight.
Hell, I can barely remember to write 2020 instead of 2019 until at LEAST mid-February (let alone remember BE A DIFFERENT PERSON). But we put these lofty goals in front of us, instead of taking baby steps and creating identifiable and achievable goals.
Goals that you can name and explain, goals that you can accomplish and scratch off a to-do list with a sense of pride.
Stop with the overarching statements, start your year off right with a win. I’ll be here if you need a motivational poster or high-five. You’ve got this.
Season’s Greetings from the biggest kindest dingus you know! It’s that weird time of year where everyone is thinking about the changes in lifestyle they want to make for 2020, but hasn’t quite committed to anything yet.
Let me plant this worm in your ear: live by the to-do list. And YOU GUESSED IT, PALS: I’ve got some pretty decent arguments in favor of adopting to-do lists into your day-to-day:
1 ) REEVALUATE EVERYDAY
Sometimes, you write something down that seems crucial to remember in the moment. Someone recommends a new TV show to watch, you hear about a limited-quantity item now available you want to try and pick up if you have the time, or you tell yourself there’s a hobby you’re going to pick up or pick back up after a hiatus.
Here’s the most obvious thing I’m ever going to say: things change and what’s important is that you remember to be flexible as well.
Do you know how many days in a row I wrote down “Record solo music” to remind myself to look at some original material I hadn’t finished before I finally realized that I just didn’t give a fuck about doing that right now? It’ll get done someday. But it just doesn’t fit the path I’m trying to take.
Sit down with your to-do list when you notice it approaching your personal threshold for anxiety-inducing levels of tasks ahead. Be real about where you want to put your focus. Cross out anything that doesn’t fit into that focus. Or move it forward to another day, which hits another point we will get to…
2 ) BREAK DOWN YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS
The absolute hands-down best advice I’ve ever received about list-making was including the process and not simply the end result.
Let me clarify: let’s say you wanted to write a novel. So you bust out your to-do list, get that green colored marker/pen (no idea why I use green), and write “finish novel” on that sucker.
Wrong. This is the easiest-to-make, but most common, mistake in living by the list. Remember that every step in a process is another check mark you should let yourself make on your to-do. Let yourself see, feel and celebrate the progress.
That’s the important thing that gets missed in neglecting to recognize each individual step. Every step is progress, even if some steps are momentary or easy as pie. It’s still a step you didn’t have to take, and a step closer to where you hope to be.
3 ) DAILY PLANNER
I live my life by lists. I always have; it’s the one strong habit that was engrained into me from an early age that I’ve managed to hold onto.
But there’s a key piece of advice I want to give anyone who already lives by the list or is hoping to live by the list: break it down.
Break. It. Down.
This is so important, and here’s why: finishing a task is so much more than one checkmark. It’s more than a single finished task. Getting to the finish line is a culmination of a number of successes (and maybe some failures or missteps) that often go unnoticed as they just feel like steps to progress to the end goal.
I want to strongly emphasize the importance of breaking down your goals to help reinforce the achievement of reaching that end goal. It shows you the progress you’ve taken and acts as a reminder that you’re moving forward even if completion is still a few steps ahead.
Let’s use baking cookies as an example: you get your planner, because you now have one of those as a responsible well-adjusted member of society, and write “Bake Cookies”. But you don’t have the ingredients! So, you head to the store and arrive home exhausted with bags in hand.
But that task still remains unchecked as these bad boys aren’t going to bake themselves. You’ve exerted yourself in a task that goes unrecognized.
So, just above “Bake cookies”, we add “Get groceries” and put a solid checkmark alongside this first step. You’re on the way! You did a thing! You’re farther ahead than you once we’re, and that’s worth celebrating.
Remember to build your lists to celebrate your small victories as much as your big wins. And remember not to put a task in your daily planner for today that you know you won’t get to until this weekend. Just put it on the weekend’s list. Allocating your list appropriately can keep an anxiety-inducing list from seeming overwhelming in the moment.
As you may have noticed, I haven’t done a podcast in a few weeks at this point. I’m just doing a little revamp of the whole thing, trying to expand upon the original idea of the podcast into what I’d like to see it become in the new year.
A new episode will be up real soon, and I’m hoping to make (at least a portion of) the show available in video form. So we’ll see how that goes. I preach positive vibes here so I may as well take my own advice and say you’ll be seeing a lot more episodes in 2020.
Looking forward to hearing more from you guys, reach out with any ideas or thoughts on Instagram, Twitter or Facebook.
And don’t forget to do something nice for yourself this Holiday season. It’s easy to be an asshole to yourself this time of year; try not doing that instead and you’ll be amazed at the miracles it can do if you just try not to actively be the worst to yourself.
Til next time,
You know, truly, I’m at a loss as to how to start writing something like this. We’re twenty episodes deep and, if you haven’t at this point figured out what we’re about, I’m afraid I’m not going to be able to hep you figure this one out.
But, I can try: I’m a guy who tries to put an above-average amount of time and effort into being better. Not the best, or unstoppable, or top of the heap. Better.
Self-help can be a motherfucker of a rabbit hole to climb into. The deeper you go, the more you’re expected to suspend your own understanding of a thought. The more you learn to suspend the nature of your own impulse, the more you’re asked to trust in a doctrine beyond your own natural trains of thought.
Seasonal Affective Disorder: Very Real, Very Garbage
Ahoy-hoy, folks! This is Brad, your podcast host and fearless leader on the Super Adult journey of taking baby steps towards just being a little less trash. We’ll be posting a great NEW episode real soon about self care and the importance of practicing gratitude as you become an old grumpy fart, but in the meantime I wanted to share some thoughts on the topic.
It’s tough to remember to be kind to yourself sometimes. We’re told to try our best to be kind to those around you, but we sometimes lose sight that it’s equally important to build yourself up and be your own biggest fan. Sometimes, it just doesn’t feel like you ARE your biggest fan.
I’ve hit this wall myself. Sometimes, a little self reflection pulls back the veil and shows us how little we respect the habits we’ve created or how little we understand the path we’re taking anymore.
I’ll always support self-reflection, but it’s just as important to remember that we need to properly focus our criticism. We often beat ourselves up for our missteps when we fail to acknowledge the importance of these moments. They teach us the wrong path, which is as important to discover as the right path. We fear and avoid the pain of taking the wrong path without truly acknowledging the power in fucking up.